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York High School's dedicated website to pupil health and wellbeing.

Sex & Consent

  • Definition
    Consent means agreeing to do something at a given moment

    This means you can agree one minute and change your mind the next. This is perfectly fine. If you are thinking of having any kind of sexual activity then it is really important that you are ready, that you can enjoy it and that you can take responsibility for it

    The Age of Consent

    This is the age at which you can legally have sex
    The Law states in England, Scotland, Northern Ireland and Wales we have to be 16 or older to have homosexual (gay) or heterosexual (straight) sex
    Sex means penetrative sex, oral sex or masturbating together

    What happens if you have underage sex?

    The law sees it as sexual assault – it’s a criminal offence. This is because in the eyes of the law we are unable to give informed consent to sex when still a child

    A boy who has sex with a girl under 16 is breaking the law, even if she agrees
    If she is 13-15, the boy could go to prison for two years
    If she is under 13 he could be sentenced to life imprisonment
    A girl age 16 or over who has sex with a boy under 16 can be prosecuted for indecent assault
  • Signs
    Sexual activity includes kissing, sexual touching, oral, anal or vaginal sex with a penis or with any object

    Signs that you are consenting to sexual activity

    You feel ready
    You believe you will enjoy it
    You feel you are taking responsibility for doing it safely

    Signs that someone is not consenting to any kind of sexual activity

    They are being pressured to change their mind
    They feel forced or threatened
    They are not able to give their consent
    They are not fully conscious
    They are drunk or high
  • Advice
    Relationships can take many forms, but healthy relationships have good communication and are based on trust and respect

    Be really sure that each person is fully consenting at each moment. If you are unsure then stop. If someone does not give consent and a person still engages in a sexual act with them, this is sexual assault or rape

    This is a crime under The Sexual Offences Act 2003 and has serious consequences
  • Where can I get help?
    In school you can talk to the following people:
    A friend
    Your Tutor
    Head of House
    Miss Masterman – Pupil Welfare Officer
    Noreen Reid – Pastoral Mentor (Drop in sessions Tuesday & Wednesday during break and lunchtime)

    In the community:
    Talk to your parents or GP

    Childline (Free) 0800 1111
    Samaritans 116 123